Be More With Less

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Most of us is trying to ease our life but again and again failing in doing it. Why? This is big question to ask ourselves. We are failing, because we are not giving enough thought, enough energy and right direction to the things, which we should give. We are just running a race, which never end. The race is of possession, the race of adding more things to our life. More things for our luxury like new mobiles, new TV, new car, new bike, new gadgets, new clothes,new…….the list will go on. And in this process of adding more and more things to our life, we are making our life more complicated and tough, as most of the possession is bought on credit cards and loans. And the story will end up in paying the EMI’s and compromising on the essential things and future financial safety. Continue reading “Be More With Less”

Lesson from a monk: The Empty Boat

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This is an interesting story and lessons for us all. I read the titled article on Quora and i got a lesson, so thought to share the lesson on my blog. Hope you also learn the lesson from the article. The actual link of the quora, i will share in the bottom of this article.  All the credit of this article goes to the real writer on Quora.

The story is:

A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes and begins his meditation.

After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own.

With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared to disturb his meditation.

But when he opens his eyes, he sees it’s an empty boat that had probably got floated to the middle of the lake.

At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization, and understands that the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him.

From then on, whenever he comes across someone who irritates him or provokes him to anger, he reminds himself, “The other person is merely an empty boat. The anger is within me.”

What we have learned from the story is – The Anger is withing us and it’s we, who can control it. It’s not only aplicable on anger, it is applicable on all the negative feelings inside us like sadness, jealousy,stress etc.

If you can empty your own boat
Crossing the river of the world,
No one will oppose you,
No one will seek to harm you.

Let’s empty our own boat, while we deal in the world. No one have power to oppose you on your thoughts. It’s only you, who have the power.

Anger, in any form, is caused by frustration of a desire. Let’s have realistic desired and the ones which we really need. Don’t try to accomplish all the things in the world. Peace of mind and peace in life is more important than all the worldly things.

In the Shrimad Bhagavad Gita, Lord Shri Krishna says:

One develops attachment for the sense-objects by thinking about the sense-objects. Desire for sense-objects comes from attachment to them, and anger comes from unfulfilled desires.

In the Shrimad Bhagavad Gita, Lord Shri Krishna says:

Those who are free from anger and all material desires, who are self-realized, self-disciplined and constantly endeavouring for perfection, are assured of liberation in the God in the very near future.

The whole purpose of the article is just to enlighten ourself on the emotion “ANGER”. You can read the article on quora from this link.

Avoid Most Popular Entertainment

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Time is the most expensive asset of your life. How to use it properly depends on you. Whether you want to use it in right way and in right things or you want to waste it or do time pass, this all is totally your decision. And remember your today’s decision decide your tomorrow. So be cautious and choose the right things to do and on right time. Save the time for your self, for your family and for your kids, parents. Invest the time in right things, and in your self. Minimize the use of useless entertainments like social media, mobiles, TV, unnecessary internet surfing, unnecessary roaming around and on similar activities.

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Know your need and wants

Reading Time: 3 minutesWe normally attracted to new things to buy. And we will keep buying the new things in the market without knowing do we really need them. If we have money, we buy in cash or through account, and if we are running out of money then we will use the credit cards or other mediums. And this is the point, where we start losing our financial freedom to the financial institutions and sooner or later, we will become the debt burden. This debt will cause us to take the tension, and force us to do more work then our capacities. Due to the work stretch, we lose our mental peace and mental control, which causes the unnecessary issues with our loved ones. Sometimes, the issues among the loves once are too big, that will harm us for life long. And do you know the root cause- It’s just our want, not the need. Continue reading “Know your need and wants”

Men of few words are the best men

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“Listen to the trees as they sway in the wind. Their leaves are telling secrets. Their bark sings songs of olden days as it grows around the trunks. And their roots give names to all things. Their language has been lost. But not the gestures.”
Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration

Most of the time, we speak without thinking and we speak too much then required. Normally, to make an impression, we talk more, but in actual the reverse will happen. When you talk more and talk rubbish, then people consider you as a fool, instead of an intelligent person.

Observe the really intelligent person around you or in the world. You can observe that they speak very less and only relevant.

We are a bundle of limited energy, so why to waste the energy on meaningless talking. Save it and use where it is actually required. Om Swami, in the book A million thoughts, has given a very beautiful quote from Srimad Bhagavad Gita, as below:-

The one who leads a life of self-discipline, ever patiently purifying himself, leading a life of detachment and love, the one who interacts less, speaks little and is mindful of his actions and speech, the one who lets go of his false ego, pompousness, lust, anger, the one who doesn’t horde for personal gains, such a person lives in trance and is most certainly self-realized.

What meditation also teaches us, is to control out thought. If you control your thought, automatically, you speak less and relevant. The best is, if there is nothing to be said, then don’t utter a single word.

Benjamin Franklin suggest –

Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.

What we talk, is very important. It may ruin the relationships, reputations that you have made. So, speak with mind always. The right talk at right place is very important and more important is, don’t speak wrong talks, be quite on those moments. Let the moment pass. If you are angry, then there are other ways to convey your anger. Let pass the anger with right talk and words.

Be calm, speak less, speak relevant, speak meaningful. Men of few worlds are the best men and reliable as well. When sometime speaks too much, one thing is clear, he is trying to hide his foolishness. If he is intelligent enough then he don’t need to talk too much.

Suzy Kassem, an American writer, shared the beautiful thoughts on speaking in the book – Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

“We cannot control the way people interpret our ideas or thoughts, but we can control the words and tones we choose to convey them. Peace is built on understanding, and wars are built on misunderstandings. Never underestimate the power of a single word, and never recklessly throw around words. One wrong word, or misinterpreted word, can change the meaning of an entire sentence and start a war. And one right word, or one kind word, can grant you the heavens and open doors.”

You don’t know, how people will interpret the words, you speak. You don’t know what direction they will take. You can not control them from interpreting the words but you have the control on your words, Right! Sometimes, your intention is good but the words used to convey the intention is misunderstood by the next person. That may create a misunderstanding and it will lead to ruin the relationship and the reputation. The words are too much powerful, so speak every single word after thinking. The words are like an arrow, once shoot from the bow, it will never return.

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity.”
― Roy Bennett

For your reading-

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  • On problems, and how to deal with problems. Read here.
  • On death, the finest truth. Read here.