Be More With Less

Reading Time: 5 minutes

Most of us is trying to ease our life but again and again failing in doing it. Why? This is big question to ask ourselves. We are failing, because we are not giving enough thought, enough energy and right direction to the things, which we should give. We are just running a race, which never end. The race is of possession, the race of adding more things to our life. More things for our luxury like new mobiles, new TV, new car, new bike, new gadgets, new clothes,new…….the list will go on. And in this process of adding more and more things to our life, we are making our life more complicated and tough, as most of the possession is bought on credit cards and loans. And the story will end up in paying the EMI’s and compromising on the essential things and future financial safety. Continue reading “Be More With Less”

Men of few words are the best men

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“Listen to the trees as they sway in the wind. Their leaves are telling secrets. Their bark sings songs of olden days as it grows around the trunks. And their roots give names to all things. Their language has been lost. But not the gestures.”
Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration

Most of the time, we speak without thinking and we speak too much then required. Normally, to make an impression, we talk more, but in actual the reverse will happen. When you talk more and talk rubbish, then people consider you as a fool, instead of an intelligent person.

Observe the really intelligent person around you or in the world. You can observe that they speak very less and only relevant.

We are a bundle of limited energy, so why to waste the energy on meaningless talking. Save it and use where it is actually required. Om Swami, in the book A million thoughts, has given a very beautiful quote from Srimad Bhagavad Gita, as below:-

The one who leads a life of self-discipline, ever patiently purifying himself, leading a life of detachment and love, the one who interacts less, speaks little and is mindful of his actions and speech, the one who lets go of his false ego, pompousness, lust, anger, the one who doesn’t horde for personal gains, such a person lives in trance and is most certainly self-realized.

What meditation also teaches us, is to control out thought. If you control your thought, automatically, you speak less and relevant. The best is, if there is nothing to be said, then don’t utter a single word.

Benjamin Franklin suggest –

Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.

What we talk, is very important. It may ruin the relationships, reputations that you have made. So, speak with mind always. The right talk at right place is very important and more important is, don’t speak wrong talks, be quite on those moments. Let the moment pass. If you are angry, then there are other ways to convey your anger. Let pass the anger with right talk and words.

Be calm, speak less, speak relevant, speak meaningful. Men of few worlds are the best men and reliable as well. When sometime speaks too much, one thing is clear, he is trying to hide his foolishness. If he is intelligent enough then he don’t need to talk too much.

Suzy Kassem, an American writer, shared the beautiful thoughts on speaking in the book – Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

“We cannot control the way people interpret our ideas or thoughts, but we can control the words and tones we choose to convey them. Peace is built on understanding, and wars are built on misunderstandings. Never underestimate the power of a single word, and never recklessly throw around words. One wrong word, or misinterpreted word, can change the meaning of an entire sentence and start a war. And one right word, or one kind word, can grant you the heavens and open doors.”

You don’t know, how people will interpret the words, you speak. You don’t know what direction they will take. You can not control them from interpreting the words but you have the control on your words, Right! Sometimes, your intention is good but the words used to convey the intention is misunderstood by the next person. That may create a misunderstanding and it will lead to ruin the relationship and the reputation. The words are too much powerful, so speak every single word after thinking. The words are like an arrow, once shoot from the bow, it will never return.

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity.”
― Roy Bennett

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Know what to avoid, and avoid it

Reading Time: 5 minutes

Charlie Munger says-

“Don’t do cocaine. Don’t race trains. And avoid all AIDS situations.”

This is your life and your decisions and choices, so you only have to bear the outcome as well, sooner or later. It’s important to know what we must avoid in life. I have been through times when it was easy for me to fall prey to requests from a few of my friends for taking just one glass of alcohol. Thankfully, I have some rules, what I wanted to avoid. And thankfully, I have avoided those and a few other such things. That helped me to stay away from the life destructive things.

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